Welcome to Part 3 of our 5-part series: “Do You Know What Your Helper Is Up To On Her Day Off?”
In the first two parts, we discussed setting clear expectations and encouraging meaningful activities. But even the best plans can fall apart without one key ingredient—trust.
When communication breaks down, misunderstandings are bound to happen. Helpers may hesitate to share their real thoughts, concerns, or weekend plans out of fear of being judged or reprimanded. As a result, even well-meaning employers may find themselves unaware of potential issues—until it’s too late.
Why This Matters
Healthy employer-helper relationships are built on mutual respect and open dialogue. When your helper feels safe to speak up, she’s more likely to make responsible decisions—and to reach out for help before problems arise.
5 Ways to Build Trust and Open Communication
1. Check In Regularly—Even When There’s No Problem
Ask how her day went or how she spent her last day off. Simple, casual chats show that you care and keep the lines of communication open.
2. Create a Safe Space for Honest Conversations
Let her know she can speak freely without fear of punishment. If she brings up a mistake or concern, respond calmly and constructively.
3. Respect Her Privacy While Staying Supportive
You don’t need to know everything, but make it clear that you’re available if she ever needs guidance or someone to talk to.
4. Encourage Positive Social Circles
Whether it’s a church group, a hobby club, or a peer support group, surrounding herself with positive influences will help her stay on the right path.
5. Offer Gentle Guidance, Not Just Rules
Instead of only laying down what not to do, explain why certain choices matter and suggest healthier alternatives. This helps her make better decisions—even when you’re not around.
What To Do If She Opens Up About Something Worrying
Sometimes, your helper may come to you with a personal issue or situation that raises concerns. Here’s how to respond thoughtfully:
- Listen first – Avoid jumping to conclusions.
- Ask, don’t accuse – Try to understand the full context before reacting.
- Provide options – Help her find safe and constructive solutions.
- Reassure her – Let her know that she did the right thing by opening up.
Final Thoughts
Trust takes time, but every kind word and fair conversation brings you closer to a respectful, honest working relationship. When your helper feels truly seen and heard, she’s more likely to thrive—and so will your home.
Coming Up Next: Recognizing Red Flags & Addressing Risks
Even with strong trust, things can sometimes go wrong. In our next session, we’ll talk about how to spot early warning signs—and what steps to take if concerns arise.