Welcome to Part 4 of our 5-part series: “Do You Know What Your Helper Is Up To On Her Day Off?”
So far, we’ve covered how to set clear expectations, encourage meaningful activities, and build mutual trust. But what happens when you start to notice something feels… off?
While we always hope for the best, it’s equally important to be alert to signs that your helper may be facing risky influences or making unsafe choices. Early detection helps prevent misunderstandings—and protects both your helper and your household.
🚩 Common Red Flags to Look Out For
1. Frequent financial stress
Repeated requests for loans or signs she’s borrowing from others.
2. Secrecy around off-day plans
A sudden reluctance to share where she’s going or who she’s meeting.
3. Drastic change in attitude or appearance
Becoming unusually defensive, distant, or rebellious.
4. New social circles with questionable influence
Especially if she suddenly distances herself from trusted contacts.
5. Avoiding communication
Harder to reach, or evasive when checked on.
🛠 How to Respond (Without Escalating Conflict)
1. Stay calm and raise concerns gently
Avoid accusations. Instead, say something like, “I’ve noticed some changes lately—are you okay?”
2. Give her a chance to explain
Keep an open mind. What seems suspicious may have an innocent reason.
3. Offer support, not just correction
If she’s struggling, she may be afraid to speak up. Let her know you’re there to help, not punish.
4. Seek advice when unsure
If the situation is delicate, consider contacting her agency or a support organisation. They can help mediate without jumping to harsh measures.
Final Thoughts
Spotting a red flag isn’t about jumping to conclusions—it’s about noticing changes early and responding with care. Most helpers respond positively when concerns are addressed with respect and sincerity. With the right approach, even difficult moments can lead to stronger trust and understanding.
Coming Up Next: Creating a Long-Term Supportive Environment
In our final part, we’ll talk about how to build a lasting relationship where your helper feels secure, respected, and motivated to make good choices on and off the job.